Day Eight

I’ve shared before, to the point that I worry it’s too much, that my family has experienced losses, deep painful losses at the holiday season. We’ve also lost people not in the holiday season.  Loss makes life hard. Grief is hard. It can make the holidays hard.

This isn’t something that we get prepared for. There aren’t Christmas specials about going on without loved ones. There aren’t songs about loss and going on. Well there are, but Christmas Shoes, and Grandma Got Run Over by a Reindeer aren’t chock full of life lessons, just sappy sentimental tripe.

So what do we do? I wish I knew. Sweet baby cheeses I wish I knew how to get through this season where I want to be merry and bright, but I’m feeling the pain of loss so much I can’t breathe.

My Mom always said, when you are thirsty have a drink of water.  So today I’m going to breathe deeply, drink water, and say their names. 

Jan

Becky

Patrick

Jay

Chris

Karen

Ann

Stephanie 

Amanda

Chris

Tara

Jane

Ger

Roy

Mike

Courtney
Donna 

Do me a favor? When you remember the people you have lost, tell their story and say their names.